The Four Agreements
One of my favorite books is a simple little volume: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It's an easy read. Actually, I'm not fond of its style. But its content is worth the the simplistic writing: Toltec wisdom. Its message is that by following this code of conduct, our lives will be happier and more fulfilled.
The agreements teach concepts that are not too far from what I was taught by mother or learned in college Psychology 101...but of course here they have a metaphysical flair to them. Here are the agreements in a nutshell:
1. Be impeccable with your word:
- Speak with integrity.
- Say only what you mean.
- Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
- Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't take anything personally:
- Nothing others do is because of you.
- What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
- When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't make assumptions:
- Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
- Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.
4. Always do your best:
- Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
- Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self abuse, and regret.
You'd think I'd have mastered them by now...I can't say I have...though I do tend to get through the crises faster by remembering them.











